Yesterday Jane on Nextdoor wrote:
Would love to walk and talk but can’t make the date. I’ll be watching this space now. Here’s a thought – If not me, then who? If not me then why not me? We are always waiting to be ‘led’, but leaders are just ‘me’s’ who put themselves forward. Kudos to you Michele!
Here is my answer:
Interesting comment Jane!
Leadership is an interesting subject.
During a recent workshop called “music circle and human connection” near Finsbury Park, led by a young Brazilian, I realised that leadership is just an element that facilitate activities. That guy was extremely sweet, practising non violent communication. He managed to let everybody have a very nurturing piece of free expression, without leaving his absolute leadership apart.
Coming back to your comment, I believe that when we get together without leadership, we breath!
As you pointed, whether in a non violent, or sadly violent way, a leader is always there to tell you what to do.
Democracy (that I believe to be the best form ever) is all about freedom to vote… leaders!
It is part of human nature, nothing that we should fight. The problem, in democracy, but also in any other environment, is just to choose the best leader.
Probably what we do during our gatherings is not really leaving leadership apart, but experience the boundary between leadership and freedom, because while leadership can be absolute, freedom (as absence of leadership) is what I believe to be the most advanced form of civilization.
Stay together one or two hours, relaxing, enjoy time, activities, creativity, comforting each other without being led by someone all the time but maybe just sporadically, requires self control, the ability to care for the others and to balance our own integrity.