Restarting soon!

Dear fellas, here I am.

A long time passed since our last meeting! In the meantime I spent some time travelling. I ended up in Italy where I created a “language exchange” group through meetup.

It was nice! In only 2 weeks it started growing with people from different nationalities and continents. But then Codiv-19 came, and we had to stop.

Now that we are allowed to breath again freely, I will restart, but with a slightly different approach, and a newer purpose.

In October my boss, Arthur Searle, died. You have no idea how much I loved him! He was an authentic and unique friend. But life ends for everyone, and I am glad I could share my time with him.

After his death I had to figure out how to make my income. I’ve been a part-time web hosting manager since 2010, but I never offered a brand, so here it is:

It is not just a regular web hosting (I can’t resiste to mess up regular things!!!), it’s a bit more, and here I am trying to mix my 2 beloved social creatures: the web management and the village gathering.

I can’t say more for now! There’s so much to do, but the seeds have been thrown 😉

I’ll be back asap with new gatherings!


2019: second attempt :)

Hi All 🙂
Long time eh?

After the 3 first gatherings, towards end of 2018, I decided to stop it.
I was not happy with the project, and I was not sure about why.

In September 2018 we moved to another flat, always in Tufnell Park.
Just last Sunday, during my daughter’s birthday party, my former neighbours invited me to move back, in the lower ground flat of their house, as they loved so much to see their children jumping the fence between gardens and play with mine.

I then thought: ok, this is time to restart, and what I want to offer to my daughter is not just a shared garden, but a whole neighbourhood!

The reason I was not happy with village gathering, last year, is that there was something wrong about my intentions. I thought it was better to stop and continue later on. I was probably giving too much importance to my thoughts.

Thanks to the offer of my neighbours, I found a way to move on, and change the focus from me to something (someone) else. I have never been a super social person, but at the same time I know what I want, and I also know that my desire is not isolated. There are other villagers (we already exist 😀 ) willing to see a social re-nourishment and been able to feel the outside as something comfortable, nice, human.

I have a vision.
Many years ago I went to Vilnius, Lituania, where I casually ended in a neighbour that declared itself “anarchist”, with a name: “The beautiful land of Nevermind”. There was a plaque at the entrance of the village, explaining that entering that area meant to access to a peaceful place.

Can you see something similar, at the entrance of Tufnell Park?

If the answer is yes, let’s gather!!!!!

At the moment we are looking for people with a stronger motivation.
Later on, we’ll start again with the gatherings. They are the core of the village, the practice that will make it real, like meditation for Buddhism or… shooting for war XD

uh.. I’ve just searched “the beautiful land of nevermind” on google. It is now a tour operator! arrrrggg!
We might add just a rule: never transform Tufnell Park village in a tour operator :p

About 14 October ’18 gathering

Hi all!
Just quickly thanking for yesterday.
Honestly, I was not expecting anyone to come for a walk under the rain! But in the end we were 4! And I personally enjoyed our little simple walk very very much.

At one point I felt as we were a little flock with no direction and its own beauty. I don’t know if the participants noticed it, but we changed speed once in while: slow in green areas and faster in trafficked Holloway road.

While chatting with Habiba (thank you!!), I also had the chance to realise a bit more what this is about.
The idea came one morning, very early in the morning after a very funny party in Utrecht (NL), while I was listening to a black bird and wondering what the hell was it saying.
I then found someone who not only gave the answer, but also suggested to immerge yourself into that listening in order to create a connection with the environment.
Birds, indeed, use sound and vision as primary sensory indicators, as well as humans, and they are even listened by other animals, like squirrels, in order to know what’s going on, like a cat approaching.

So they are like a bridge, a sort of story tellers.

The same guy who explained bird language, is now part of a team that work on “cultural repair”, and the village is the place where this can happen.
Connection is the base of well-being: being connected to the others, to ourselves, to the environment is the key to a fun and peaceful life, where our unique expressions are listened, enjoyed and shared.

How? Like anything in life: through practice.
The village is the practice of connection.

Tataaaa!!! End of the post 🙂

about leadership and freedom

Yesterday Jane on Nextdoor wrote:

Would love to walk and talk but can’t make the date. I’ll be watching this space now. Here’s a thought – If not me, then who? If not me then why not me? We are always waiting to be ‘led’, but leaders are just ‘me’s’ who put themselves forward. Kudos to you Michele!

Here is my answer:

Interesting comment Jane!
Leadership is an interesting subject.
During a recent workshop called “music circle and human connection” near Finsbury Park, led by a young Brazilian, I realised that leadership is just an element that facilitate activities. That guy was extremely sweet, practising non violent communication. He managed to let everybody have a very nurturing piece of free expression, without leaving his absolute leadership apart.

Coming back to your comment, I believe that when we get together without leadership, we breath!
As you pointed, whether in a non violent, or sadly violent way, a leader is always there to tell you what to do.
Democracy (that I believe to be the best form ever) is all about freedom to vote… leaders!
It is part of human nature, nothing that we should fight. The problem, in democracy, but also in any other environment, is just to choose the best leader.

Probably what we do during our gatherings is not really leaving leadership apart, but experience the boundary between leadership and freedom, because while leadership can be absolute, freedom (as absence of leadership) is what I believe to be the most advanced form of civilization.
Stay together one or two hours, relaxing, enjoy time, activities, creativity, comforting each other without being led by someone all the time but maybe just sporadically, requires self control, the ability to care for the others and to balance our own integrity.

Amen XD


Second Village Gathering… :D !

Hi Villagers.
Ehem… let’s gather again !!

As I wrote in the “3rd first village gathering”, the first time we gathered ended up being something chaotic and interesting, with lot of potentials. I could tell you that up to scientific research, gathering is the best way to keep yourself happy and healthy, but you simply have to come and see how you feel after that! And if you know any scientist, invite them for a live experiment 😉

Sabine suggested to gather for a walk, something not too demanding.
A walk at a slow pace would be a great container to observe the area, chat within us, maybe stopping once in a while to enjoy some little expressive moment (I have something in mind…), or whatever would arise.

The first available day will be Sunday 14th.
If that day will work, we could gather in the morning, 10am – noon, or in the afternoon, 2.30pm – 4.30.

I would like to gather at Foxam Gardens (I love it!), but it’s only a suggestion.

What else…

Uh! Of course, I forgot to mention that yesterday I talked to Joanna (Whittington park community centre). She told me that in case we might decide to gather there for something indoor, they would try to offer a room also with a short notice.

So questions:

  • Sunday 14 sounds good?
  • 10pm or 2.30pm… or?
  • Foxam Gardens or any other place?

As usual, answer via private message or populate this post, with whatever comes to your mind.

Important reminder: ALL are welcome! The village is all, from minus 0 to +infinite years old, of any nature and taste.


First gathering done, it was a fantastic chaos! :D

Dear Villagers,

yesterday we have accomplished a great social milestone: we gathered with very little organisation, no need of any kind of leadership, and with the pure desire to be villagers. And it was beautifully chaotic! 😀

I personally enjoyed it very much, despite the fact that the location was not the best for chatting quietly, while taking care of toddlers. After 30 minutes the pub became a bit too noisy, and not safe enough to leave the toddlers wondering alone.

We were: 3 toddlers, 2 mothers, 1 father (me) and other 3 adults… a fantastic mess!

I personally had no expectations, and I liked it a lot! It actually met one sort of hidden expectation: it was relaxing and authentic.

One of the participants asked me to give a speech, that I prepared but not provided (I really couldn’t), but after the request I realised that there was no need: I loved the chaotic fluidity that rose by itself, and at the end I received some very passionate feedback about the pleasure of meeting new totally unknown people.

So, what’s next?
Just before we waived goodbye, Sabine told me that she is missing walks from her Germany.

In his “Thinking, Fast and Slow” the neuroscientist Daniel Kahneman talks (also) about the relationship between the walking speed and the pace of thinking, and since I read that book, I realised how lovely is to cogitate together at a slow speed, or even walk alone, in the evening, when I feel the need to reorganise my mind.

So, shall we gather for a walk? 
It would be a fantastic way to connect with each other, and with our area! There is plenty of things to see.

Buildings and plants have a very intimate relationship: they are physically adherent, they share the same space, cohabit, share surfaces, temperature, roofs, water pipes, earth… have you even thought about it?

Let’s see if this new call will reach someone 🙂

I will soon publish a new post with a new village walk-gathering invitation.

3rd update for the next week (25/30 October) gathering

Dear Ladies and Gentlemen Villagers, it seems that we’re finally approaching the right time for the gathering.  The latest message that I received yesterday from the universe of Tufnell park talks about the need for an utopian self organised society… with a date and time!
Well, instead of “self organized” there was another word beginning with A, but I don’t want to alert too much the law enforcement.

Anyway, the magic date seems to be Friday 28th, 5pm.

Let’s keep this anyway open for anyone else who might join, also at a different time.

Big hug


Update for next week (24-30 October) gathering

Hi Villagers!
I have received some updates, and here is the new availability.
PLEASE let me know yours, in order to narrow down a solution for all.
THIS IS OPEN TO ALL!! single, double…triple, homo, straight, black, white, blue, green, natives, foreigners, those in the middle, stressed, relaxed, “don’t giving a heck”, disabled and non, adults and children: the village is all!
What to do is up to all (I know, it sounds a bit anarchist, but we’ll figure out how to make it civilised 🙂

25 Tue from 4pm,
28 Fri from 4pm,
29 Sat any time,
30 Sun morning until 1pm.

If none of this with for someone, let me know and we’ll look for a solution.


Next week (24-30 October) gathering

Hi all!
So, here is my availability for the next week. The location is Tufnell Park Tavern. Let’s see if we can gather and give this a try!

25 Tue: from 12am
27 Thu: from 4pm
28 Fri: from 4pm
29 Sat: all day
30 Sun: all day

Please send me a private message with your availability or post it here.
I’ll update the most conveniente time for all in a few days.

Love, Michele